Your happiness is directly related to your ability to control your attention and your interpretations.
The Self Mastery Course is a series of exercises in awareness and changing core beliefs that lead towards mastery of your mind and emotions. The simple intent is to eliminate limiting fear based and limiting beliefs that create unhappiness in your relationships and your life. Eliminating false beliefs in the mind creates more room in your life for emotions of gratitude, love, respect, and happiness.
Free - First Four Sessions No Credit Card or Obligation
$99 - Basic Self Mastery Series: Sessions #5 - #14 with insights on how your mind works to produce certain thoughts and emotional reactions and specific exercises to change sabotaging dynamics. You will learn to identify false beliefs that negative thoughts and emotions arise from. There are also specific exercises to assist in changing perspective, emotional reactions, thoughts, and external behaviors.
$15 - Emotional Release Exercise: A single mp3 audio with an explanation and guidance on releasing unwanted emotions. Much of the Self Mastery work addresses the beliefs that generate many of our emotions but this exercise gives you a practice of breath work to work through emotions directly.
The course material is in mp3 audio files that you download and listen to at your convenience. There are also supportive emails and written material that supplements the audio within the membership areas of each course.
The various Self Mastery exercises are complimentary and build on each other. As you practice them you develop awareness and skills to:
* Stop your emotional reactions
* Control the thoughts in your mind
* Identify and change core beliefs behind your thoughts and emotions
* Shift your point of view to see your self and others differently
* Dissolve the voice in your head that is critical of your self and others
* Develop respect for your self and for other people
* Gain control over your attention so you can focus on creating love and happiness in your life, and in your relationships
Is this a big list, and perhaps too much to promise? Not if you understand that most of your negative thoughts, attitude, emotions, and behavior arise from your core beliefs. Whether your specific issue is insecurity, fear of public speaking, jealousy, anger, controlling behavior, or something else, it is founded in your core beliefs. Once you develop your awareness and the skills to change your core beliefs, then changing your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors in any area becomes possible.
Because of my confidence in the material and in the results I've seen people get, I offer a 30 day money back guarantee. If you are not satisfied with the value of the course material, just send me an email within 30 days of your purchase and I'll refund your money. But you don't need to even go through that much trouble because the first 4 sessions of the Basic Self Mastery course can be accessed for free.
Awareness and Skills
Take note of the fact that I say develop awareness and skills. This is not about accumulating information, or becoming overly analytical in an academic way. We have been trained through years of school to be plenty smart, but we have had little or no training in being aware of our mind, changing beliefs, emotional reactions, or behaviors. To make these changes requires a different kind of learning and some skillful practice.
It is near impossible to make changes in your emotions and behavior simply by accumulating more knowledge and information. If it were that straightforward you could read a book and make the changes you desire. The truth is it doesn't seem to work that way. People can read numerous books, and know what they should be doing, but don’t actually change a behavior or an emotion. In many cases all this information makes things worse because they end up judging themselves more harshly when they fail because they expected knowledge to do the trick.
One of the problems with knowledge is that it doesn't require you to take any new actions. Because of that we don’t have any new experiences. It is by experiences that we really learn. The other problem is that the very mind with the faulty beliefs is filtering your incoming knowledge to fit its existing paradigm of beliefs. This makes it difficult to take the necessary step of seeing things in a different perspective.
Self Mastery requires practical actions
Consider the process of gaining awareness and skills involved in swimming. Swimming is a complex activity that we make simple with practice. You don’t learn to do that all at once, but rather by beginning with small fundamental steps like holding your breath and then floating. When practicing these skills it doesn't appear that you are learning to swim. However you are learning very important skills necessary for swimming.
Just by floating you are learning to focus your attention, calm your fears, and relax your body. When floating it appears you are not doing much. But it is in the not doing that you are making progress. You are learning how not to lose your attention, panic, flail, waste energy, and gulp water. These not doings are a big steps towards mastering swimming.
Learning to swim is a skill that you practiced in the safe shallow end and then worked you way up to rivers and oceans. As you worked your way up to more challenging environments you also developed awareness of your skills as a swimmer, and of the water. You learned to read the currents, depth, ocean waves, and things like rip tides. You also learned to make discerning choices based on your physical condition and the affects of water temperature of fatigue. As you gain awareness of your skills as a swimmer, and the water conditions, you can make wise choices and enjoy playing in a world of water.
Learning to make your way through the world of beliefs and emotions is similar. You can have a lot more enjoyment in the world of emotions when you develop your skills, awareness of your skills, and awareness of the environment around you. In the beginning it may be a matter of learning not to drown in fears, anger, or jealousy. As you become more skilled you will spend more time in the emotions of love, gratitude, and respect.
You can not learn to swim from a book or even 100 books. By the same token no amount of intellectual knowledge will translate to the skills necessary to change your perceptions, core beliefs, emotional reactions, and sabotaging behaviors. The only way to learn is to practice skills that allow you to make those changes. This includes awareness of your own beliefs, emotions, and point of view.
Most people have had no training in changing their assumptions, expectations, point of view or beliefs. When they do start paying attention they often react to what they discover with judgment or victimization instead of making clear assessments and effective changes.
By practicing the exercises in the Self Mastery program you will learn how to see hidden assumptions, and beliefs in the mind that were previously invisible to you. You will learn practical ways to step back and observe without wasting energy on reacting. You will also learn to avoid common things people do that amplify negative emotions and take themselves on a downward spiral.
This is NOT One of Those Success Program
Success programs try to provide you with the many habits, beliefs, and attitudes for you to adopt in order to create your dream life. Some programs tell you to avoid what could derail you from your success. These include things like negative thoughts, self judgment, limiting beliefs, fears, doubts, and sabotaging behaviors.
These programs tell you to avoid these things however they rarely if ever provide effective tools to do so. It is easy to create habits of success if you don’t have any fears, doubts, or limiting fear based beliefs. However that is not the situation most adults are in with their lives.
The exercises in the first part of the Self Mastery program focus on the very issues that other programs seem to avoid. The activities in the program teach you how to challenge and dissolve the fears, doubts, emotional reactions, and self sabotaging beliefs in a comprehensive way. It does this by giving you very practical tools and actions to take instead of just telling you how you should be without them.
"Other people talk about theories of happiness, but Gary gives you the steps of how to do it." Holly P. California.
The Easy Way to Change Beliefs
As you practice the activities in the self mastery series you heighten your awareness to thoughts, emotions, and core beliefs. By doing so you see them from a perspective you didn't have before. A natural consequence of raising your awareness is that you instinctually self modify. In this way it is not a strenuous effort to change your beliefs. With awareness it simply becomes a matter of common sense not to believe negative thoughts or unconsciously follow old patterns of emotions. The work involved in the process is to raise and maintain your awareness. However once you are able to raise your awareness of the world of emotions and beliefs, you will reap the benefits of these skills for the rest of your life.
A common objection, "This is "hard"
Some people consider the idea of changing an emotional reaction, behavior, or belief as “hard”. This is an interesting assumption considering they usually have no experience in identifying and changing core beliefs. I will admit that changing beliefs that were programmed into your mind years ago can be challenging. It requires that you take some actions that may be uncomfortable at first, and that you spend time practicing the exercises. However I will not say that it is “hard”. What I consider hard is to live the rest of one’s life by the limiting fear based beliefs and emotional reactions that have accumulated since childhood. That is a hard way to live.
The Next Step in your Path
The best way for you to find out what the Self Mastery series is about is to sign in and begin listening and practicing the exercises provided. There is no risk to start because the first few sessions are free for you to sample. This gives you a chance to decide if you want to purchase the next 10 sessions of the course.
A few logistical details about the course
The first four sessions are available for free
The price of the basic Self Mastery course it is $99 with a one time payment. You also have the option to purchase the course by making four monthly payments of $33.
The sessions are sequenced in 2 week intervals so that you have time to practice and integrate each assignment before going on to the next session. The exception to this is session #2 which comes one week after course sign up.
Every two weeks you will receive access to your next audio session. To access your assigned session log into your membership account with the username and password you signed up with.
If you have difficulty you can likely solve your problem with the guidance on the User Help Page.
For further exploration
If you are listening to practicing the Self Mastery exercises you might want to also listen to the free audio I’ve posted on the site as well. The free audio provides background and awareness on issues like the mind, core beliefs, personal power, relationships, emotional reactions, hidden assumptions, and how to stop taking things personally. If you are still debating whether or not to start the Self Mastery course, the free audio is a good place to explore the background of these teachings and find out if this process makes sense to you.
Here is feedback from a course subscriber half way through the series.
Regarding session 7, I have created an inventory of characters and been incorporating them into the material from session 5. I have found that this is a really good exercise as it incorporates a lot of the previous sessions and everything seems to be coming together....like a jigsaw puzzle.
Investing in this course has been the best thing I have ever done.
I have never come across anything that helps one achieve peace and happiness at such a low cost!
Your website is full of wisdom and i regularly listen to your podcasts as well as the 'Odds & Pieces' section... am particularly attracted to the audio piece called 'Life'.
I no longer have any moments in my life where i don't have anything to do ...whereas in the past I would watch TV. I now practice one of your sessions or listen to your audio.
When I used to wake in the morning the different voices in my head used to fight for my attention and usually got my attention, leaving me dreading the rest of the day. However, I now listen to the gratitude session as soon as I wake up. After the session I am in a state of gratitude and it helps me be an observer more frequently throughout the day......and being grateful when you catch one of the voices of the internal dialog trying to grab your attention is wonderful.
Peace and Love to You.
The happiness in your life is directly related to your ability to control your attention and choose which interpretation in your mind you are going to believe. These are the fundamentals that you will learn in the Self Mastery Audio Program. The first four sessions are available to you free when you sign in.
$149 - The Relationship Course: 12 Sessions that address the false beliefs at the core of emotional drama and dysfunction in relationships. Each session identifies specific behavior or emotional patterns and the core beliefs they arise from and provides insight and exercises to change the drama making patterns at their core. It is recommended that you also do the Basic Self Mastery and combine these two programs for maximum benefit.
$99 - Self Mastery Phase II Series: 12 Sessions that focus on three key areas. 1) Dismantling the critical voice of self judgment in our head that is at the source of feeling insecure and unworthy. 2) Developing a greater range of perspectives of ourselves and our relationships to facilitate greater amounts of love in our life. 3) A set of exercises that helps us build a new paradigm for creating the life we want. This is especially important at this phase because after we have spent time dismantling old false beliefs our motivations are likely to have changed. This product is only available to individuals who have purchased the Basic Series.
$100 - Spiritual Journey to Mexico 2013: 13 1/2 hours of the lectures, discussions, questions, and meditations during the week long spiritual retreat. This isn't the total of what we did during the week, but through the audio's you will get an understanding of the process, and some valuable insights and techniques to apply to make changes in your life. You will have immediate access to all 20 audio's from this retreat. There is not a refund available for this product. This product is only available to individuals who have purchased the Basic Series.
$25 - Richmond VA Workshop 2014 - 6 Hours of mp3 audio including guided meditations, discussions, lecture. Topics include an inventory of a belief system, understanding emotions, acceptance, forgiveness practice, and how to apply this in the real world. Recordings were taken from an evening talk and one day workshop in 2014. All audio's are available immediately. This product is only available to individuals who have purchased the Basic Series.