We don’t have a single lens for viewing something, or someone. We can even hear what people say and interpret differently depending on our point of view. Sometimes point of view changes by our emotional state and attitude. Sometimes those feelings and therefore perspective shifts just because of what we are doing and who we are with. One thing is clear, when you change the point of view with which you view something, your experience of it changes.
I spend much of the Self Mastery Course, and other workshop experiences working exercises to change point of view. Because you have the idea that is hat you should do is not enough. You need to implement changing your point of view through practical exercises. For practical ways to change your point of view you can begin with the Free Trial Exercises of the Self Mastery Course.