Self Judgment is the most common type of abuse. It’s self abuse. No one is more critical of you than the voice in your head. If anyone else talked to you the way the Judge in your mind spoke to you, you would fight back, or walk away from them. We […]
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Self Judgment
Published by April 7th, 2008 in Happiness, Self Awareness, The mind, Podcasts and Self Mastery. 0 CommentsFinding Your Self
Published by August 20th, 2007 in Emotions, Happiness, Self Awareness, The mind, Podcasts and Self Mastery. 0 CommentsFinding your Self or figuring out who you are is one of those eternal questions. We often struggle with it as teenagers, then again in our thirties, or during a mid life crisis. The struggle to know thy Self is as old as spiritual traditions that attempted to answer the question.
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Free Will
Published by July 1st, 2007 in Happiness, Self Awareness, Emotional Reactions, Personal Power, Podcasts and Self Mastery. 0 CommentsDo you have free will? Is there even such a thing as Free Will? It is true that we are to some degree products of our environment. Our minds get filled with ideas, beliefs, and emotional patterns as we grow up. We are socialized to become a collection of habits and […]
How to Tell If a Relationship Will Work
Published by April 11th, 2007 in Emotions, Happiness, Self Awareness, Emotional Reactions, Relationships, Podcasts, Relationship Advice, Love Relationships and Fear. 0 CommentsHow can you tell if a relationship will work out? There are specific indicators to tell if your relationship will run into trouble down the road. The signs aren’t found in how much love, romance, or physical attraction there is. Two people can have great chemistry but still not be compatible.
How to […]
Don’t Take Anything Personally
Published by February 23rd, 2007 in Happiness, Self Awareness, Emotional Reactions, The mind, Podcasts, Four Agreements and Impeccabililty. 0 CommentsHow to Not Take Things Personally
In the book, The Four Agreements, Miguel Ruiz outlines a code of conduct for creating love and happiness in your life. One of his Four Agreements is “Don’t Take Anything Personally. In this podcast I describe some of the hidden assumptions that cause us to take things personally. […]
The Ego Mind and Consciousness
Published by January 28th, 2007 in Happiness, Truth, Self Awareness, The mind, Podcasts, Four Agreements and Core Beliefs. 0 CommentsIn a Four Agreements workshop I shared a model for understanding consciousness and the ego mind. I recorded the workshop and part of it makes up this mp3 audio podcast. Understanding the ego mind and understanding consciousness means becoming aware of the way our mind dreams. The ego mind has more than just thoughts and […]
Can You Change Your Life
Published by January 1st, 2007 in Emotions, Happiness, Truth, Self Awareness, Emotional Reactions, Podcasts, Four Agreements, Core Beliefs and Fear. 0 CommentsI often get asked if people can really change their life. They want to known if they can overcome fears, stop the judgments, and quiet the voice in their head. The answer is yes. However, when people ask, they usually ask with such fear and doubt that almost no amount of words will suffice. Perhaps […]
Fear of Love and Happiness
Published by December 1st, 2006 in Emotions, Happiness, Self Awareness, Emotional Reactions, The mind, Podcasts, Core Beliefs and Fear. 2 CommentsIt might be hard to believe that we fear love and happiness, but it is a real dynamic that happens in the mind. It is easier to understand if we consider the mind to be a living being with many different aspects. If we attempt to change our beliefs and behavior, then we are making […]
Fear and Overcoming Fear
Published by November 15th, 2006 in Emotions, Happiness, Self Awareness, Emotional Reactions, The mind, Podcasts, Core Beliefs and Fear. ClosedOvercome fear by gaining mastery over your core beliefs.
Fear is that emotional force that drives us in a direction away from joy, happiness, and love. Fear can paralyze us to the point that we feel helpless and suffocated. Often fear appears irrational, but it only looks this way at the surface. When you scrutinize the stories […]
Identify and Change Core Beliefs
Published by October 31st, 2006 in Happiness, Self Awareness, Emotional Reactions, Relationships, The mind, Podcasts and Core Beliefs. 1 CommentWhat are core beliefs and how do you identify them? That’s what many people are realizing they need to do to change their emotional reactions. The problem is where do you look to find core beliefs? They are in the mind but can be hard to pin down, particularly when it is […]
Impeccability and Gossip
Published by October 27th, 2006 in Happiness, Self Awareness, Emotional Reactions, Questions for Gary, Personal Power, Four Agreements and Impeccabililty. 0 CommentsAsk Gary
Gary,
A friend of mine, Alice, broke up with her boyfriend. When I talked to another friend on the phone (she also knows Alice) I told her that Alice and her boyfriend broke up. Of course I asked myself the question: why am I sharing this info with my friend? Would this be gossiping? So […]
Love Relationships Part 1
Published by September 30th, 2006 in Emotions, Happiness, Self Awareness, Relationships, The mind, Podcasts, Relationship Advice and Love Relationships. 0 CommentsUnderstanding Desire and Yearning in Relationships
Desires for a relationship come from deep within us. They aren’t desires for a specific person so much as a need for expression and experience of connection and feeling that we can have with another person. Those desires include the emotion of love, physical affection, and sexual satisfaction. It is […]
Relationship with Your Body
Published by September 25th, 2006 in Happiness, Self Awareness, Relationships, Questions for Gary, Core Beliefs, Impeccabililty, Relationship Advice and Body and Body Image. 0 CommentsAn audio course subscriber who had dissolved many of her beliefs about her body, and her body image wrote in with the following question.
Dear Gary,
How do you care enough about your body in order for it to be healthy, without getting too stressed about it?
Dear M,
TREAT YOUR BODY LIKE A DOG!
Treat your body like you would […]
Power Control Fear and Freedom
Published by September 20th, 2006 in Emotions, Happiness, Self Awareness, The mind, Personal Power and Fear. 0 CommentsInspiried by Tim Boucher’s blog article on fear and power and way too much time in front of the computer screen.
I’ve observed that many people who seek power do so out of self created fear. Their mind drives scenarios of misfortune. Without awareness, they invest belief in their imagined stories and create fear. Their imagined […]
Controlling Relationships
Published by September 13th, 2006 in Emotions, Happiness, Self Awareness, Relationships, Questions for Gary, Relationship Advice and Love Relationships. 0 CommentsDear Gary,
In a situation like the one I am going through (overcoming jealous and controlling behavior that is alienating my partner), how do you avoid overcorrecting too far the other way. You want to avoid being passive aggressive so you hold back on what you say and do. But you don’t want […]
Happiness As Choice
Published by September 12th, 2006 in Emotions, Happiness, Self Awareness, Podcasts and Impeccabililty. 1 CommentMost people spend their whole lives looking for some measure of happiness. Why is it so elusive? What creates happiness? People will tell you that material things or other people won’t make you happy. Experts will advise you that in order to be happy you first have to make yourself happy. What they usually can’t […]
Emotional reactions
Published by August 22nd, 2006 in Emotions, Happiness, Self Awareness, Emotional Reactions, Podcasts, Core Beliefs and Impeccabililty. 1 CommentWhen it comes to stopping or changing emotional reactions people often approach the problem like they are fixing a car. They ask, “How can I change this reaction?” or “How can I stop my jealousy, anger, frustration etc.” The assumption seems to be that if we change one thing the whole problem will go away. […]
The Four Agreements and Hidden Assumptions
Published by August 15th, 2006 in Emotions, Happiness, Self Awareness, Emotional Reactions, Podcasts and Four Agreements. 0 CommentsOf don Miguel Ruiz’s Four Agreements most people will say that the hardest one to keep is Don’t Take Anything Personally. I don’t agree. The most challenging agreement is actually Be Impeccable with Your Word. In taking something personal you take what someone said and express an interpretation that makes it personal. We invest our faith in the […]
Feeling Not Good Enough - Beliefs
Published by August 11th, 2006 in Emotions, Happiness, Self Awareness, Emotional Reactions, The mind, Podcasts and Core Beliefs. 2 CommentsI wrote an article about feeling not good enough. It relates to issues of insecurity. A big component of feeling insecure is the image of perfection that we create in our mind. When the voice in our head compares us to that image of perfection it concludes that we are not good […]
Empowerment Programs and Claims to Empower People
Published by August 8th, 2006 in Happiness, Self Awareness, The mind and Personal Power. 1 CommentThere are many programs and organizations that describe what they do as empowering people. Empowerment of people might even be in their mission statement. This is common language among personal development and personal growth organizations. The idea is appealing, and the organizations probably do good work. However be aware that there is a hidden sabotaging message […]
Stop Thinking about Thinking
Published by July 23rd, 2006 in Happiness, Self Awareness and The mind. 0 CommentsI happened upon a website called Pop Occulture. It is a blog by Tim Boucher. I liked the article he wrote on overcoming thought addiction. That’s when your mind won’t stop making commentary. And when your mind becomes aware of what it is doing it makes comments about all the comments it […]
The Word “God” in Prayer
Published by July 22nd, 2006 in Happiness, Self Awareness and Questions for Gary. 0 CommentsDear Gary,
After reading the articles on your website (very inspiring by the way). (early website I don’t know which article she was reading.) I was wondering how you would describe the concept of ‘God’. I find myself struggling with the meaning and the word ‘God’. For me the word God is associated with a person […]
Respect in Relationships
Published by July 21st, 2006 in Happiness, Self Awareness, Emotional Reactions, Relationships and Questions for Gary. 0 CommentsGary,
My lover consistently takes actions I feel are disrespectful and my reaction is that my desire to do loving things for her (sweet talk, flowers, even regular conversation) decreases dramatically.
Q1 How do you determine whether you are withholding your love or preferring not to be disrespected?
Curiously, JS
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The Truth Doesn’t Hurt
Published by July 20th, 2006 in Emotions, Happiness, Truth, Self Awareness and Fear. 0 CommentsIt is sometimes said that the truth hurts.
This isn’t my experience. Often there is a pain that comes with a truthful realization, but the hurt isn’t from the truth. The pain is from the shattering of our illusions in the mind. There is literally an energetic field of energy that breaks ups when an […]
