http://www.pathwaytohappiness.com/happiness Through Self Awareness: Change core beliefs, emotional reactions, and create love and happiness in your relationships Mon, 22 Jun 2009 19:44:45 +0000 http://backend.userland.com/rss092 en Gary, I have just completed the first Self Mastery course but am troubled by something.  I agree with all you say and can see the validity of implementing each of your suggestions.  However, a couple of sessions led me to conclude that conversations with people are a waste of time as ... http://www.pathwaytohappiness.com/happiness/2009/06/16/feeling-connected/ Why do we say judgmental criticizing things to the person we love? Why we criticize our husband or wife and what we can do about it? Because we become so comfortable with that person that we don't edit what goes through our mind.   We let the internal voice of the judge ... http://www.pathwaytohappiness.com/happiness/2009/06/09/criticizing-partner/ Malcolm Gladwell doesn't take the commonly accepted beliefs others have.  He looks deeper into understanding the Why's and How's of things at a deeper level.  Success isn't just a matter of hard work, or talent, or both.   There are a lot of assumptions about success, and in his book Outliers, ... http://www.pathwaytohappiness.com/happiness/2009/04/13/malcolm-gladwell/ A Problem with Self Help Bob decides to adopt some self help strategies in order to be happier in his life and relationships.  In order to improve himself and his life, Bob decides to think more positively about things.  Part of that intention includes stopping his negative thinking.   He might even ... http://www.pathwaytohappiness.com/happiness/2009/03/24/stop-negative-thinking/ Should you take the band aid off slow or fast? Dan Ariely shares an interesting story of whether you should take the band aid off slow, or fast.   If you do it slow, the pain is less intense, but over a longer period of time.  If you take the band ... http://www.pathwaytohappiness.com/happiness/2009/03/18/beliefs/ Barry Swartz on practical wisdom.   How we lose our ability to think and adapt wisely to new situations as we create more rules.   You can not regulate your self or others into right action and moral behavior with rules.  Rather it is done with instilling an understanding of responsibility, ... http://www.pathwaytohappiness.com/happiness/2009/02/25/wisdom/ Archetypes A few years back I was at my bank withdrawing some money.  My intention was to invest in the market.  I was referred to one of their investment advisers who told me, "That's dangerous."   The implied message is not just to be fearful, but that you will get hurt because ... http://www.pathwaytohappiness.com/happiness/2009/02/23/role-life/ Where do your emotions come from? Some people are under the assumption that your emotions come from your thoughts.   That would be wrong.  It is a bit more involved than that.  It's not just what we think about, or put our attention on that determines our emotions.  Contrary to some current ... http://www.pathwaytohappiness.com/happiness/2009/02/09/understanding-emotions/ Why we feel insecure In our mind we develop images of who we are.  Our imagination develops a story of our self and we imagine our self in different roles.  Those images and story roles in our imagination can be of a success, or of failure and rejection.  It is through ... http://www.pathwaytohappiness.com/happiness/2009/02/05/insecurity/ News Years Resolution Most New Year's Resolutions fail.  After a few months a person is back at their old habits and routines.  One reason well intended resolutions fail is because we are already overloaded.  Our mind is already full of things to think about, our daily schedule is full, and our ... http://www.pathwaytohappiness.com/happiness/2008/12/30/new-year-resolution/