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Judgement: What is it good for?

Hi Gary!

I have been enjoying the Self Mastery Audio Series and am currently on Session 9: Emotions.  Thank you for making such a wonderful program available.
The  Judging voice in my head  has a question:
I understand how we can accept other people and things as they are in most circumstances, and can see how they are not inherently “good” or “bad”.  But how can one say that unthinkable events such as the Holocaust are not “bad”?  I guess, according to my story/dream, things that cause life to cease in a painful malicious way are “bad”.  How could one describe the Holocaust without using judgement?  How can one not reject that and push that away?
(Judgment here is used to mean criticism with emotional rejection.  It is different than making a clear assessment without a negative emotional reaction.)
In the Banned words session it was interesting when you were talking about preference of different ice cream flavors.  My Judge’s favorite flavor is “rejection” of dairy ice cream because of my knowledge of how most dairy farms, like factory farms, operate.  These “farms” breed large scale cruelty, in which animals live in UNTHINKABLE conditions and endure pain, suffering and mass slaughter, only to produce cheap and mostly unhealthy foods for us, and also create significant environmental devastation at the same time.
Even in the witness/consciousness point of view, thinking of intentional conscious killing ignites a negative reaction.  I guess I feel like it’s not so much my “story” or one from one of the voices in my head that is making it bad, it IS bad.
Is the solution just acceptance??
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HELP!!

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Hi Help!!,
I like your question,,, or as you pointed out,,, your “judge’s” question.  I think you are asking me to present a pretty strong case for calling a spade a spade instead of calling a spade ,,, a “bad” spade.
so le’ts back up a little bit…. I think I know where this is going so I’m gonna suggest we take a different angle on this.
How bout this first.  Will you, or your Judge,,, (or any other characters designated to speak on behalf of the judge ( good luck getting him to abdicate authority to anybody else))   but I digress…. what was I saying again…
Oh yes.   Will you first have your judge make a case for how making expressions of rejection about historical events, or food processes makes you any happier, makes someone’s life better, or makes the world a better place to live?
I’d first like to hear the case for such expressions of unpleasant emotion of rejection?
How do they benefit you?

The action to make changes is a different issue.

Gary

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Thanks for your response.  I guess with the food situation, having the reaction makes me want to take action to better the situation with my food choices.  But, I guess it would be much more efficient to do the action without having the emotional reaction!  I guess the only real “benefit” is the rightousness feeling.
It’s interesting because I came to the same conclusion you were pointing to on September 20.  The below arrow statement is cut-and-pasted from my 9/20 entry:
—————–>  Think about how all of these judgements make me feel.  Pretty damn shitty!  Why do **I** choose to judge and react then?
I came to that conclusion after making judgements about coworkers.  I didn’t realize I could apply this same solution to what I perceive as much bigger “problems”!
Back to hunting!  :)
Thanks again,
Help!!



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