Archive for December, 2006

Respect in Relationships

 Gary, My lover consistently takes actions I feel are disrespectful and my reaction is that my desire to do loving things for her (sweet talk, flowers, even regular conversation) decreases dramatically. Q1 How do you determine whether you are withholding your love or preferring not to be disrespected? Curiously, J Consider that it might be [...]

The Truth Doesn’t Hurt

 It is sometimes said that the truth hurts.   This isn’t my experience. Often there is a pain that comes with a truthful realization, but the hurt isn’t from the truth.  The pain is from the shattering of our illusions in the mind.  There is literally an energetic field of energy that breaks ups when [...]

Impeccability and Gossip

 Ask Gary Gary, A friend of mine, Alice, broke up with her boyfriend. When I talked to another friend on the phone (she also knows Alice) I told her that Alice and her boyfriend broke up. Of course I asked myself the question: why am I sharing this info with my friend?   Would this be [...]